I thought I might start a little tradition of posting a different Ted Talk Video every Thursday – Ted Talk Thursday (I love alliteration). Maybe eventually I’ll get really cool and just go with TTT.
The first video I chose is Brene Brown – a Ted Talk she gave about 7 years ago.
It takes about 4 minutes to really get into the video but once it gets going there’s a ton of gold. She talks about overcoming shame and the idea that some of us feel like we’re not good enough. And how that feeling stops us from being vulnerable and stops us from being our true selves and that stops us from truly connecting with others. All of this leads to unhappiness. There’s some really awesome stuff about judging and shame and vulnerability.
One thing from the video that I don’t agree with is when she says something about people who can’t have compassion for themselves can’t feel compassionate for others. This is similar to the whole saying about those who can’t love themselves, cant love others. I’m sorry, but I think that’s a bunch of crap. I can see that having compassion for oneself might allow a deeper sense of compassion for others. In fact, I’ve found the more compassionate I am with myself the more compassionate I am toward others. And maybe truly loving oneself allows for a deeper level of love. But I think we all can and do feel love and compassion for others regardless of how we treat or feel about ourselves. And besides, I think deep down in our souls, we all do truly love ourselves. It’s just that there is so much crap built-up that sometimes we never find or feel that love.
Anyway, as with all things, it’s okay if I don’t agree with everything, and maybe you won’t either. Just take what you want and leave the rest behind. And if you have the time, please leave a comment. I’d love to hear what really rung true (or didn’t) for you.